How To Be Your Happiest Self

IMG_4183Reading back on the title of this post ‘how to be your happiest self’ sounds a little silly however there are a few things that I have done to ensure that I am the happiest that I can be. Giving yourself a little TLC is so important and as much as tea, chocolate and a disney movies cheers me up this is only temporary so I wanted to share a few things I have learnt which improve my happiness long-term.

STOP comparing yourself – If anything is going to drain your happiness and leave you not feeling good enough or insecure it will be comparing yourself to others. Now I know everyones says this and it’s much easier said than done but once your stop comparing yourself you will feel so much better as all it does it makes you feel rubbish and there’s nothing to gain. Always focus on being the best version of yourself as we are all different.IMG_4190 IMG_4196 (1)Be thankful for what you DO have – Many of us often talk about how we want someone elses life, their job or even their wardrobe. The thing is we can’t always have everything that we want and when you have these thoughts it’s important to reflect on what you do have and what you’re thankful for. I have an amazing family, wonderful boyfriend, cute fluffy puppy and love that I am self-employed and get to work for myself. That might all sound perfect however I have anxiety and suffer from panic attacks, and even though I love working for myself it does make me very stressed. As much as it might seem like someone has the ‘perfect’ life it’s not all roses and it’s important to not focus on the negative aspects and appreciate how lucky you are in other parts of your life.

Spend time with POSITIVE people – I never realised how much of an impact this would have on my life until all the toxic people were removed, those people who always put others down and create dramas are no good for you and will just bring your mood down and leave you feeling deflated. Obviously there is a difference between toxic people and those who are just very negative so I’m not saying to remove all these people from your life, just be aware of how other people make you feel and spend your time with them wisely. When I was younger I had lots of friends however as I have grown up I realised that quality over quantity is so important, much better to have a few friends that make you feel good about yourself and cry with laughter than those that bring you down.IMG_4192 IMG_4201Look after your mind & body – As you might know I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks (I don’t really talk about it so you probably don’t) so it’s so important that I look after myself from within. I’ve read quite a few mindfulness books and have learnt techniques to help de-stress, I did try CBT for my anxiety however it didn’t work for me but I do work on my anxiety as I want it to always improve. Exercise and healthy eating helps a lot too, as much as I love chocolate and tea every evening I do generally eat quite good and try to exercise at least twice a week as I feel much better about myself and not as sluggish in comparison to if I eat rubbish and don’t do any exercise.

Pamper yourself – I try to have a pamper evening once a week at the weekend and take some time to have a relaxing bath and use some of my favourite products. As you might know I’m obsessed with Lush so always pop one of their bath bombs or bubble bars into the bath and relax whilst catching up on some YouTube and just enjoy some well deserved ‘me time’. I literally do nothing else apart from relax in a face mask and exfoliate with some lovely products (the Philosophy Pure Grace Sugar Scrub is one of my favourites at the moment).IMG_4207 IMG_4225 (1)Leopard Print Blouse | Moschino Scarf | Topshop Ripped Jamie Jeans
New Look Gold Loafers | Louis Vuitton Neverfull

 I’d love to know if you have any tips on how you try to be your happiest self and if you agree with any of the points that I shared! Also when you have down days what you do you to pick yourself back up again?

Rebecca x

16 Comments

  1. 1st March 2017 / 7:46 pm

    Such a great post! All of these are so true, especially being thankful for what you have and not comparing yourself. Those are two things I had to work on in my past and I’m a completely different person because of it. A much happier person.

    Hope // http://www.misshopeelizabeth.com

  2. Laura
    2nd March 2017 / 5:50 pm

    Agree with being thankful for everything you *do* have x

  3. 2nd March 2017 / 7:10 pm

    All excellent tips. I will say, the first one really hits home. As a blogger, it’s hard not to compare yourself to the more”successful blogs, but as Ernest Hemingway once said, “there’s nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being better than your former self.”
    On a sartorial note, I adore this outfit (and your cute dog)! The print of your top is so fabulous!

  4. Roxie
    2nd March 2017 / 7:18 pm

    Making time for some ‘self-care’ is really important. I put aside half an hour every morning to myself once Penny has been fed. I make sure I do nothing blog or chose related, I just sit with a coffee and either read or listen to the radio.

  5. 2nd March 2017 / 8:34 pm

    Completely agree with looking after yourself.. nothing better than a good pamper evening to feel happier again. x

    Small&Blonde

  6. 2nd March 2017 / 9:25 pm

    This post is giving me serious outfit envy!

  7. Cass
    3rd March 2017 / 1:47 am

    These are such important points, I need to stop comparing myself to other – something I have always struggled with. You look gorgeous in this post too, love that shirt!

    Cass | CassandraMyee

  8. Antonia
    3rd March 2017 / 7:40 am

    I love these tips and try and incorporate them into each day. Lovely photos too xx

    Allure La Vie

  9. 3rd March 2017 / 7:47 am

    This is a great post, I am a firm believer of being thankful for what you do have, so many people are always seeking more but yet they have much more than some, I always think if we are warm, dry and with a roof over our heads we are a lot luckier than most. And your doggy is so so cute!!! I am definitely not showing my girls ha ha I’ll never hear the end of it xxx

    Zoe ♥ MammafulZo

  10. 3rd March 2017 / 9:49 am

    I think it’s SO important to surround yourself with the right people and I have been doing that the last few years – removing the toxic friends and even though my circle is smaller, I feel so much happier! x

  11. 3rd March 2017 / 3:01 pm

    I completely agree with every point you’ve made. I too suffer with anxiety, though it’s a relatively new thing to me I’m trying to find ways to manage it. One of the ways, just like you’ve mentioned is to say bye to those toxic people in your life and the ones that bring you down. Along with mindfulness and focusing on all of the amazing thinfs I do have.
    Thank you for this post – it’s good to know other people feel the same!
    Frankie x

  12. 4th March 2017 / 3:43 pm

    Looking after your mind and body is so imporant – it makes a big difference when you start listening more to your body and to what your mind tells you. Working out gives so much satisfaction and confidence, I’d recommend it to anybody who needs a little pick-me up!

    Julia x
    Last post: OOTD – The Lace Skirt | http://juliaspeaksbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/2017/03/handmade-skirt.html

  13. 14th March 2017 / 6:37 am

    These are great tips lovely. I also make plans for the future, like little trips with my boyfriend, that makes me feel happy and excited :)

    Gemma x | flutterandsparkle.com

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