How to be Confident | Talking About Confidence

how to be confident confidenceAt this current stage in my life I am the most confident that I have ever been, I’m not saying that nothing ever affects me but the majority of things don’t. I have rambled a lot in the video where I talk about how to be confident so you can watch that if you want, but I’ve also included a summary below of what I covered, the less rambly version! I just want to note that this is from my experience and won’t be the same for everyone but I hope that it might help some of you!
Learn to Accept Compliments
It’s amazing when you think about how easy it is to believe the negative things people say and completely discard the positive. I understand that people can be so insecure that when others give them a compliment they don’t believe it. What I found is to accept compliments, even if you think they are lying you should still accept it as it is something positive and over time you will start to believe it yourself. When you have learnt to accept compliments, you can then start complimenting yourself.
There’s No Point in Comparing Yourself to Others
At the end of the day, no matter how much you compare yourself to another person you are never going to be them and they are never going to be you. There is nothing wrong with you being you, you are a beautiful and wonderful person, if you think you’re different from others just remember that everyone is different and no one is the same.
Accept Yourself For Who You Are
You need to first accept yourself for who you are and then you can start loving yourself. I know it is much easier said than done and it’s not easy but the more you compliment yourself and focus on the positive things, the easier it will become.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
This is one of the most important points. I feel that if you are always surrounded by negative people then that negativity is going to rub off on you and that’s not what you want, also people who bring you down you don’t need in your life. I’ve seen it where friends are mean and bully each other but say they are only “joking”, this behaviour can be hurtful and they are not true friends. True friends are those who build you up to be a better person and make you feel better about yourself, these are the people you need to be around. Don’t feel bad about cutting someone out of your life if they are a bad influence and are making you feel rubbish, they shouldn’t be behaving the way that they are and you deserve more than that. There is a quote that says “your outlook will be the average of the five people you spent the most time with”, so make sure you pick them wisely.
Focus on the Positives
Now there may be things you don’t like about yourself, but you should take a minute to think about what you do like about yourself. Now this may be a specific feature in your appearance, that you are good at sport, drawing or even that you are a kind loving person. Once you start focusing on these aspects you will start to feel better about yourself and learn that even though there are things you don’t like, there are also things that you love.
There is Nothing Wrong with Loving Yourself
This is really important as some people think that loving yourself and becoming confident means becoming vain and this is not the case at all, confidence and vanity are two very different things. There is nothing wrong with loving yourself, it doesn’t change who you are but allows you to live a more positive and happier life.

Becoming confident can be a long process but with hard work and determination, it’s something that can be achieved. If you have any tips yourself leave them down below!

Rebecca x


    • coco
      1st February 2015 / 12:32 pm

      Thank you, I'm glad you liked it :) x

    • coco
      1st February 2015 / 12:35 pm

      Definitely important! :) xx

  1. India Benjamin
    31st January 2015 / 8:43 am

    Ah it's great you're feeling so confident lately :) I like to think I'm confident most of the time, but I definitely need to stop comparing myself to others and accept compliments! I agree so much with the last point, I think people believe that if someone is confident (especially if they're female) they're vain and big headed and arrogant. We're expected to hate our bodies as it's the norm!

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

    • coco
      1st February 2015 / 12:51 pm

      Exactly, people need to understand that confidence and vanity are two very different things! I'm glad you're confident most of the time :) xx

  2. Chelsea Roderick
    1st February 2015 / 7:46 pm

    What a lovely post and some great advice xx

    • coco
      1st February 2015 / 10:34 pm

      Thanks xx

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