Reading back on the title of this post ‘how to be your happiest self’ sounds a little silly, however there are a few things that I have done to ensure that I am the happiest that I can be. Giving yourself a little TLC is so important and as much as tea, chocolate and a disney movies cheers me up this is only temporary so I wanted to share a few things I have learnt which improve my happiness long-term.
STOP comparing yourself – If anything is going to drain your happiness and leave you not feeling good enough or insecure it will be comparing yourself to others. Now I know everyones says this and it’s much easier said than done but once your stop comparing yourself you will feel so much better as all it does it makes you feel rubbish and there’s nothing to gain. Always focus on being the best version of yourself as we are all different.
Be thankful for what you DO have – Many of us often talk about how we want someone elses life, their job or even their wardrobe. The thing is we can’t always have everything that we want and when you have these thoughts it’s important to reflect on what you do have and what you’re thankful for. I have an amazing family, wonderful boyfriend, cute fluffy puppy and love that I am self-employed and get to work for myself. That might all sound perfect however I have anxiety and suffer from panic attacks, and even though I love working for myself it does make me very stressed. As much as it might seem like someone has the ‘perfect’ life it’s not all roses and it’s important to not focus on the negative aspects and appreciate how lucky you are in other parts of your life.
Spend time with POSITIVE people – I never realised how much of an impact this would have on my life until all the toxic people were removed, those people who always put others down and create dramas are no good for you and will just bring your mood down and leave you feeling deflated. Obviously there is a difference between toxic people and those who are just very negative so I’m not saying to remove all these people from your life, just be aware of how other people make you feel and spend your time with them wisely. When I was younger I had lots of friends however as I have grown up I realised that quality over quantity is so important, much better to have a few friends that make you feel good about yourself and cry with laughter than those that bring you down.
Look after your mind & body – As you might know I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks (I don’t really talk about it so you probably don’t) so it’s so important that I look after myself from within. I’ve read quite a few mindfulness books and have learnt techniques to help de-stress, I did try CBT for my anxiety however it didn’t work for me but I do work on my anxiety as I want it to always improve. Exercise and healthy eating helps a lot too, as much as I love chocolate and tea every evening I do generally eat quite good and try to exercise at least twice a week as I feel much better about myself and not as sluggish in comparison to if I eat rubbish and don’t do any exercise.
Pamper yourself – I try to have a pamper evening once a week at the weekend and take some time to have a relaxing bath and use some of my favourite products. As you might know I’m obsessed with Lush so always pop one of their bath bombs or bubble bars into the bath and relax whilst catching up on some YouTube and just enjoy some well deserved ‘me time’. I literally do nothing else apart from relax in a face mask and exfoliate with some lovely products (the Philosophy Pure Grace Sugar Scrub is one of my favourites at the moment).
Leopard Print Blouse | Moschino Scarf | Topshop Ripped Jamie Jeans
New Look Gold Loafers | Louis Vuitton Neverfull
I’d love to know if you have any tips on how you try to be your happiest self and if you agree with any of the points that I shared! Also when you have down days what you do you to pick yourself back up again?
Rebecca x
